Valentine Blues
By Charmaine Sanchez
Love is definitely in the air! Valentine’s Day happens just once in a year that is why people never fail to make sugar-coated efforts in making it special. From the very first week of the month, children started getting busy with art papers, red cartolinas and gooey messages for their love cards as instructed by “ma’am”. Flower shops are bountiful of bouquets all set for gentlemen that are hopeful for a “yes” on cupid’s day. Couples are saving their weekly allowance for a dinner date or a picnic on the 14th. Everyone seems so up and about for Valentine’s this year. How about you?
“Mag unsa ka sa katorse dai?”
“Mag vigil sa akung inug haya nga kasing-kasing”
Most of us may be looking forward to our dates, but have you ever listened to your broken-hearted friends recently? Seems like if they could only skip February 14th, they really would! The problem is, since long time forgotten, people got used to this mentality wherein they think couples are the only people who can be legally happy on Valentine’s Day! This is wrong. When we celebrate love, we can celebrate it with anybody without having the requirement of a girlfriend or a boyfriend just for the sake of a date. So before putting your sad pants on, why don’t you try considering my suggestions to save yourself from valentine blues?
1)Go out with your friends. There isn’t one law that says you can’t have a date with your friends on valentines. In fact, going out with friends can be more fun than exclusive dinners! Instead of crying over your past tragic love affair, set an appointment with your friends for some girls’ night-out, chip-in for a group dinner or simply spend the evening out making fun of your exes.
2)Go out with your family. I know we seldom come out with this kind of plan but it can really be fun for you! The best part about going out with parents is: you can save yourself from all the expense! Why don’t you join your parents on their date along with your brothers and sisters as long as you promise not to spoil their moment? A family nigh-out can really take your mind off your worries and heartaches if you know how to enjoy the moment and appreciate the people who are truly there for you. And that is your family.
3)Have a date with yourself- Okay, I know valentines would feel weird if you only have yourself but it can work well if you know what to do. While the world is living la vida loca— with everybody dating, your parents are out… prepare one good movie or two that you can enjoy watching on your own. Bake home-made cookies or give yourself a treat of your own like preparing a special dinner for one so you can nibble on something while watching TV. In choosing a film, make sure it would have you laughing in the end, since your purpose is to enjoy. Avoid choosing films of heavy drama or lost love affairs because you would end up picking your cellphone and texting your boyfriend, saying things like “I still can’t believe what you did to me” and all other unending speeches of misery. DON’T SPOIL YOUR OWN NIGHT.
Love is that one thing that’s both dangerous and enticing at the same time. We meet people. We lose people. It’s the natural flow of life. Just because you feel alone and you wonder why things work out for other people except for you, doesn’t mean you’re going to spend the rest of your life heartbroken. Learn to smile after a good cry. Learn to love after a break-up. Everything gets better and better the second or the third time around. So give yourself a happy Valentines. I sincerely wish you one.
“Mag unsa ka sa katorse dai?”
“Mag vigil sa akung inug haya nga kasing-kasing”
Most of us may be looking forward to our dates, but have you ever listened to your broken-hearted friends recently? Seems like if they could only skip February 14th, they really would! The problem is, since long time forgotten, people got used to this mentality wherein they think couples are the only people who can be legally happy on Valentine’s Day! This is wrong. When we celebrate love, we can celebrate it with anybody without having the requirement of a girlfriend or a boyfriend just for the sake of a date. So before putting your sad pants on, why don’t you try considering my suggestions to save yourself from valentine blues?
1)Go out with your friends. There isn’t one law that says you can’t have a date with your friends on valentines. In fact, going out with friends can be more fun than exclusive dinners! Instead of crying over your past tragic love affair, set an appointment with your friends for some girls’ night-out, chip-in for a group dinner or simply spend the evening out making fun of your exes.
2)Go out with your family. I know we seldom come out with this kind of plan but it can really be fun for you! The best part about going out with parents is: you can save yourself from all the expense! Why don’t you join your parents on their date along with your brothers and sisters as long as you promise not to spoil their moment? A family nigh-out can really take your mind off your worries and heartaches if you know how to enjoy the moment and appreciate the people who are truly there for you. And that is your family.
3)Have a date with yourself- Okay, I know valentines would feel weird if you only have yourself but it can work well if you know what to do. While the world is living la vida loca— with everybody dating, your parents are out… prepare one good movie or two that you can enjoy watching on your own. Bake home-made cookies or give yourself a treat of your own like preparing a special dinner for one so you can nibble on something while watching TV. In choosing a film, make sure it would have you laughing in the end, since your purpose is to enjoy. Avoid choosing films of heavy drama or lost love affairs because you would end up picking your cellphone and texting your boyfriend, saying things like “I still can’t believe what you did to me” and all other unending speeches of misery. DON’T SPOIL YOUR OWN NIGHT.
Love is that one thing that’s both dangerous and enticing at the same time. We meet people. We lose people. It’s the natural flow of life. Just because you feel alone and you wonder why things work out for other people except for you, doesn’t mean you’re going to spend the rest of your life heartbroken. Learn to smile after a good cry. Learn to love after a break-up. Everything gets better and better the second or the third time around. So give yourself a happy Valentines. I sincerely wish you one.
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