February 28, 2012

'Age of Innocence' ends!

February 23-29, 2012

By Ma. Jesusa F. Constantino

                A few meters away from where I was writing is an internet café, and everyday the place is packed with people.  Many of them made it a routine to use computers from the ‘young ones’ to the ‘once young’.  Others go there both for research and leisure.  As a student, I go there to make projects, researches, find out new songs on the Billboard and YouTube and check my Facebook account.
                In our city during weekends, people are busy on-line.  While waiting for a vacant computer, I stand by, and the noise and laughs of the two kids I heard caught my attention.  They sounded so happy.  I got curious.  I don’t know what they were doing because the cubicle is covered with a thick curtain.  But I heard one of them saying, “Ibutang diha bai, over 18 years old naka!”  It was then, that I realized that those two kids, of about 10 to 11 years old gained access to an adult related material over the web by declaring he is over 18 years old.
                Pornography is never an old issue even if some say otherwise maybe because they believe that portrayal of sexually explicit images has become commonplace in today’s society.  What was once a taboo is now openly available.  Yes, in fact that’s the reason why I am hesitant to write about this article, but the worsening effect of pornography inspired me to share a thought about this issue.
                As a junior education student, we have a Field Study subject in one of the elementary schools in the city.  We need to observe for one to two weeks only.  We observed the behaviors of the pupils and the teaching strategies as well.  During recess, I noticed a Grade 5 pupil, Mark*, sitting over in a corner giggling after googling porn.  It was a cellphone with internet access. 
                I thought the age of a fifth grader is the youngest age to lose innocence about porn exposure.  One of my friends, who is now a practice teacher in one of the elementary schools in the city, also encountered the same type of pupil who has a regular porn exposure and was caught in the act of kissing the model’s bust in a bold/sexy magazine.  These pupils came from Grades 1 and 2.
                Dr. Monina P. Ponferrada, a pediatrician from San Carlos Doctor’s Hospital, presented her views about the dangers of porn for children.  She said that, “Parents have great responsibility to monitor their children.  Many parents do not spend time with their kids and instead give them unlimited access to the internet.  They equip their kids with i-Phone and i-Pads and ‘anything and everything’ to get them off their back.  It’s no surprise that kids are locking themselves in their rooms and watching porn.”
                In turn, Dr. Ponferrada warns that “viewing pornography, especially in an ongoing way can have potentially detrimental effect on children and may be motivated or perpetuated by loneliness and isolation, but if the child doesn’t see porn at home, there is a good chance, one is introduced to it by peers.”
                Mark is a gamer and even at 12, he spent much of his idle time on the internet.  The first time he stumbled across pictures of people having sex was in the internet.  Like his games, the stream of internet pornography did not stop.
                Dr. Ponferrada said that the internet entices kids to porn addiction and it has health risk like little sleep at night and the week-long gaming and masturbating while looking at the porn can make him sick with dehydration.  It can also cause malnutrition.
Facebook issues
                Mark is part of the first generation of teenagers who are computer literate and have had fast, unlimited access to the internet.  In fact the rise of MySpace and Facebook has turned the internet into the preferred method of communication.
                In fact, Facebook, is not good for the kids anymore.  It is because, Facebook has a porn problem.  This social networking site is replete of violent and pornographic images including doctored pictures of celebrities such as Justin Beiber and Rihanna.
                Users had complained of being subjected to links, videos and images depicting pornography.  I have encountered this with one of my friends.  He received a hundred comments about the image he posted on the wall – an image of the female genital.  He denied the accusation of posting such porn image.
                According to the news, the site confirmed that it suffered a “coordinated spam attack” by hackers.  Hackers gained unauthorized access to computer data to use computer or other technological device or system in order to gain unauthorized access to data held by another person.
DepEd concern
                From TV news last February 19, 2012, the Department of Education encourages the students to engage in sports.  This is to lessen the dropout rates in school.  It was reported based on studies on America, that pupils/students gained more interest in schooling, when they are in sports like football.  This is also to encourage the pupils to have physical activity and exercise.
                Aside from the drop-out rate, sports is also necessary to switch the child’s exposure to pornographic images and videos which can cause addiction.
Men in general
                Generally, the people who produce and purchase pornography are men.  Adults watching are acceptable as long as the porn doesn’t involve children.  Even for adults it can be addictive and create false expectation and distorted ideas.  It is like an alcohol that gives a sense of well being but is damaging in the long run.
                When adults are involved in pornography, the children suffer in some way.  Men who view pornography often act out their sexual cravings by raping real young children.
                According to CSWD Officer Cynthia Mirande, here in San Carlos City, based on 2011 statistics, the city has six cases of rape and 13 cases of Act of Lasciviousness.  Mostly, these cases happened in Barangay Rizal.
                Like it or not, most men watch porn.  I think it is fine when you have certain level of maturity to understand that porn is fantasy – sex in real life is nothing like that. Sex in real life should be with somebody you love and care for.
                For children on the other hand, it is indeed damaging as they are learning what sex is, is through porn.
                No wonder, kids pose sexily nowadays when they see their favorite pop stars singers wearing next to nothing, posing and performing in a seductive way, even singing about sex (e.g. S&M/ Rude Boy).  As much as I love her as a singer, she does portray sex a lot in her videos/performances to sell, so with Lady Gaga.  Young girls want to copy her and be like her.
                This is the price we have to pay for fast and quick communication.  We are in the Google age.  As humans we have the ability to stop ourselves from doing or watching certain things to protect others or stop things that could have a negative impact on us in the long term.

                

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